Last week I posted about the difference between self-confidence and conceit, and asked if you all thought an entertainer could be faithful. That was more or less the point of Cocky Entertainers.
Apparently Bostonian Beauty and Cav Bernah had alot to say on the topic. They entered an all out blogger war and I think it's only right that we analyze their conversation (a conversation they had when they both should have been at work doing what they are paid to do....shame).My comments in Green
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AFTER IM DOING COMMENTING ON THE BLOG I SHALL GET TO YOUR COMMENT BOSTONIAN BEAUTY...
UMMM ALLOW ME TO INTERJECT FOR THOSE WHO DON'T KNO IM GONNA TAKE A WILD GUESS AND SAY THAT UMM... IM MR NBA SOUND ALIKE.. GOOD ONE CAM. REALLY
NOW FOR THE 1ST PART CONCEITED IS DEFINED AS " having an excessively favorable opinion of one's abilities, appearance, etc." AM I THAT MOST WOULD SAY YES WITHOUT THOUGHT... HOW EVER IMMA DROP SOME JUELZ SO PICK THEM UP (SLANG FOR EDUCATE YOU SO LISTEN/READ) [hmmm, I think the key word in that definition is "excessively." What in excess is good, besides money (arguably) and orgasms? The Bible says, all things in moderation - where does excess come in?]
THE SYNONYMS FOR CONCEITED ARE AS FOLLOWS vain, proud, egotistical [selfish!!!], self-important, self-satisfied. [There is a whole lot of the word "self" here. If this world had a population of one, you, I could see how that would work out. But bottom line is that we have to interact with other people. You know, like fathers, girlfriends, cashiers, etc.]
HUMM NOW I SAY THAT TO SAY THIS... I BARE ALL THE TRAITS ABOVE BECAUSE THAT IS SOMETHING THAT WAS INSTILLED IN ME AS A CHILD. [silence]. I WAS TAUGHT NEVER TO SETTLE FOR LESS AND NEVER WAIT FOR THE NEXT PERSON TO TELL YOU UR DOING WHAT EVER U DO WELL.. CUZ WE ALL NO THE AVG PERSON WILL POINT OUT A FLAW BEFORE THEY GIVE YOU CREDIT [I agree].. JUST THE FACTS OF LIFE..
ALSO BEING IN THE FIELD THAT I AM IN.. WHERE THERE ARE WOLF..SNAKES.. AND WHERE PEOPLE WILL STEP ON THEY OWN FLESH AND BLOOD TOGET AHEAD.. I HAVE NO ROOM TO SHOW WEAKNESS.. IF YOU A THE LEADER OF THE TEAM AND U SHOW WEAKNESS WHEN EVERY1 LOOKS TO YOU AS THE GO TO MAN.. YA TEAM STARTS NOT BELIEVING.. THE SECOND U SHOW WEAKNESS IN THIS LINE OF WORK U BECOME A STATISTIC.. IF I DONT THINK IM THE HOTTEST NIGGA DOING IT WHO ELSE IS GONNA BELIEVE IT.. I CANT BE IN A MEETING BOUT TO SIGN A DEAL.. AND THE CEO ASK ME IF IM HOT!! AND ME BE LIKE YEA IM GOOD.. NO ONE IS GONNA INVEST IN A.. UMM IM OK.. U GOTTA LOOK HIM DEAD IN HIS EYES.. AND BE LIKE HOT??? EITHER IM THE BEST NIGGAS DOING IT!! OR EVERYONE IS LOSING IT!! PERIOD!! CUZ U ONLY GET ONE CHANCE SOMETIMES U DONT WANNA BLOW IT BY BEING HUMBLE...[Another good point. Although I don't disagree, I wonder if there can be room for humility in the artists life. I am sure Michelangelo didn't have to walk around saying he was the best - his art spoke to that. And Beethoven probably didn't say hire me...I'm the best- you heard it and knew what the deal was. Shouldn't there be some level of "my work tells you all you need to know"? But I also understand that if you don't speak for yourself who will. But you know me, I'm all about balance - even if the balance means 80% cocky, 20% humble]
NOW SELF CONFIDENCE DOES THIS SOUND LIKE SELF SATISFACTION WHICH IS THE SYNONYM FOR CONCEITED
NOW LETS LOOK AT THIS WORD CONFIDENCE IS "full trust; belief in the powers, trustworthiness, or reliability of a person or thing: We have every confidence in their ability to succeed."(FUNNY THEY USED THIS AS A EXAMPLE)
2. "belief in oneself and one's powers or abilities; self-confidence; self-reliance; assurance: His lack of confidence defeated him."
[I agree, everyone needs self confidence]
I HAVE AN INDESCRIBABLE AMOUNT OF CONFIDENCE IN WHAT I DO.. BECAUSE I BELIEVE THAT MY DREAM IS NOT JUST A DREAM ITS IS REALITY AND I WILL OBTAIN IT BY ANY MEANS.. AND I SAY THAT TO SAY THIS.. IF I WAS SITTING ON MY ASS RAPPING ABOUT SHIT, NOT MAKING MOVES, TRAVELING, NETWORKING DOING SHOWS, AND ALL THE OTHER GROUND WORK.. AND WAS SITTING AT HOME LIKE IM NOT GONNA WORK.. IM NOT GONNA DO NUTTIN IMMA SIT HERE AND RAP CUZ IM NICE AND IMMA GET SIGNED.. THEN IF U CALL ME CONCIETED THEN I WILL UNDERSTAND
BUT WHAT I HAVE IS AMBITION, DRIVE, AND IM SO FOCUSED ON THE TASK AT HAND ... I CAN SEE WHERE PEOPLE MISTAKE IT AS CONCEITED.. ITS A CATCH 22 IF U ASK ME
AS FAR AS FOR THE SHIRTS WITH MY NAME ITS A FORM OF MARKETING (WHICH MY DEGREE IS IN) THE MORE PEOPLE SEE IT THE MORE IT BECOMES A BRAND)
[geez i was just asking... lol]
CAV BERNAH IS A BRAND JUST LIKE SEAN JOHN, VERSACHE [It's VERSACE] ETC MUSIC IS THE PRODUCT U GOTTA DEVELOP THE NAME B4 N E ONE WANTS THE PRODUCT.. BUILD AWARENESS YA NO... IF I DONT START DOING IT.. WHO ELSE IS GONNA ROC A CAV BERNAH SHIRT TO PROMOTE ME. IT HAS TO START WITH ME.. THEN PEOPLE CATCH ON LATA.. ONE WORD TREND SETTER..[that's two words - sorry i had to! lol i <3 style="color: rgb(0, 0, 0);">NOW FOR THE FAITHFUL PART.. MR ENTERTAINER.. ENTERTAINS ITS A IMAGE.. ITS NOT ABOUT WHAT HAPPENS IN THE BEGINNING OF THE DAY.. ITS THE END RESULT IT HAS NUTTIN TO DO WITH RESPECT [Cheating is a complete and utter lack of respect for the person you are with. You are saying I no longer respect your feelings or this relationship --unless you are swingers or in an open relationship (an open relationship ain't even a relationship to me and don't get me started on that whole swinging thang)].. ITS ABOUT BEING WITH SOME1 THAT WILL EXCEPT U AND ALL UR FLAWS EVEN IF ITS SLEEPIN WITH OTHER GURLS.[are you kidding me! now i know you're just saying that for the sake of an argument]. SMOKING CRACK.. STEALING ETC.. IF SHE GONNA BE THERE THATS WHAT THEY CALL RIDE OR DIE CHICK [Umm no sweets, you got that whole ride or die chick thing wrong - no worries jen and I are working on a post about that one - but I can tell you this, a ride or die chick puts up with a lot of shit, but in order to be a ride-or-die chick you do NOT tolerate cheating. Look for more info on that coming soon]
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Well Mr. NBA - How would you honestly feel if your girl stayed sleeping around with other men while the two of you are together? Do you think that she has respect for you? Would you have respect for her if you knew those things about her? [good questions, not just 'cause she is my sister ;-)]
*Say what you mean and mean what you say* -
DEAR MISS BOSTON
TO ANSWER YOUR QUESTION I WOULD HAVE TO DEAL WITH IT IF SHE WAS LIKE THAT FROM THE JUMP... IT WOULD BE SOMETHING I WOULD HAVE TO PUT UP WITH OR CHANGE IF I WANTED TO BE WITH HER ... BUT I WOULD TAKE INTO FACT IF I CANT CHANGE HER (CUZ ITS HARD TO CHANGE PEOPLE) WOULD I BE ABLE TO LIVE WITH ME BEING AWAY AND HER PHYSICALLY BEING WITH SOME1 ELSE.. AND IF HER HEART IS WITH ME THEN THATS A VARIABLE THAT MAKES A HUGE DIFFERENCE.. NOT SAYING THIS IS RIGHT.. BUT LOVE MAKES U DO UNORTHODOX THINGS.. "COME AS UR ARE" THE BIBLE SAYS THAT.. HE LOVES US AS WE ARE.. KINDA WORKS THE SAME WAY.. LOVE HER AS SHE IS.. FLAWS AND ALL...[I think we should accepts someone's flaws as long as they do not conflict with respect. cheating is disrespectful, at the very least (well to me at least). But if the person you are with or you can accept that, then by all means lower your standards, and accept that neither he/she/you are good enough to fulfill all a person's needs. Some people like feeling inadequate. The Bible Says "come as you are" because God knows that once you come to him, changes will be made in your life. It's about the change there. Don't come and STAY as you are, 'cause when your are in God's hands you can only change to be more like him. And being more like him would be "being love." This same love, the Bible defines not only through the example of Christ's sacrifice, but also in I Corinthians"Love is patient, love is kind.
It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
It is not rude, it is not self-seeking,
It is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth.
It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always preserves." - 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
- It's okay....take a moment and process...]
*SAID WHAT I MENT AND MENT WHAT I SAID.. GOT IT :)* -
Come as you are the good book says. You are still young and learning. I hope that you find someone (to share a life with) who will agree with your theory. There are a lot of variables when it comes down to guy/girl relationships.
I've been there and done that with cheaters and I'm shameful [don't be ashamed...lessons of life] to admit men who physically hurt me. I WILL NOT STAND FOR IT. They did not respect me or themselves. If I'm not cheating neither should you and vice versa. If you are not happy with your significant other leave!
Cheating is not ok! For a million reasons. And so those hoes that you plan on cheating with I hope you get medical records before you bone cause condoms aren't always safe!!!!
If my man is good to me and I will stand by his side. Even when very very tough times arise. But if his flaw is inflicting mental, physical verbal and emotional abuse - I'm gettin gone (and yes I would consider cheating all of the above). HE can stay I'll leave!
You have yet to experience hurt at that magnitude! [nodding...]
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DEAR MISS MASSASCHUSTTS [my sis is gorgeous, isn't she?]
IM NOT SAYIN I CONDON CHEATERS! IM SIMPLY SAYING THAT EVERY1 SITUATION IS DIFFERENT.. IT MIGHT NOT HURT A FEMALE MORE TO LEAVE A GUY THEN TO JUST DEAL WITH HIS CHEATING OR ANYTHING ELSE.. [I'm gonna need you to explain this one...blog it]
AND AS FAR FOR ME.. I BEEN ON BOTH SIDES OF THE FENCE..
SO IM SPEAKING FROM BOTH SIDES.. PEOPLE MAKE MISTAKES REMEMBER THAT..
SOMETIMES IT TAKES A MISTAKE TO MAKE ONE RELIZED THAT WHAT HE HAS IS SPECIAL AND IF YOU DONT FORGIVE HOW WILL U KNO!!
ITS ONLY A MISTAKE IF YOU DONT LEARN FROM IT MISS MASS..
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HOPE I AINT HIT A SOFT SPOT! -
No soft spot hit at all.
I don't believe that there is ever an excuse to cheat. I have never and will never cheat. Its not me. If I'm not happy I will deal or leave. Its that simple. I've been forgiving cheaters most of my adult life. I'm just over it now. Let me deal with something different!
What works for me may not work for you! I guess maybe it does depend on the person. But give people chance to have their say so about what they are getting themselves into. -
RESPECT
I AGREE WHAT WORKS FOR ME MIGHT NOT WORK FOR U.. WHICH MAKES U, U AND MAKES ME, ME
LOL
U JUST KNOW HOW TO PIC THEM.. U AND YA SIS HAVE THAT IN COMMON I GUESS LOL .. LOVE YA CAM ;) [When the argument weakens, low blows ensue lolol]
Care to respond anyone....?
OMG!!!!! That was absolutely hilarious. [Yes it is hilarious! Thank you BB for appreciating my literary humor]
The bottom line is Mr. Entertainer will cheat if he has no respect for you and above all no respect for himself! If he respects himslef and has a deep moral fiber then you should be safe. I believe that once someone has given you their heart you should treat it as you would your very own beating heart and vice versa!
So can he be faithful? Only he and God knows that truth....